Mental health

We all have physical health and we all have mental health. Sometimes they are intertwine, sometimes separate. You may have a cold or you may have the flu. You can be sad or you can be depressed.
You may need a paracetamol or you may need to get some professional help. What ever you decide do please keep posting.

Richard
 
Sue, I have often told this story to folk who were thinking about joining WC.
Many years ago, at the Station Inn, Ribblehead, we were all singing Ÿou'll never walk alone” with our arms waving in the air. One person-in the middle of the room, was waving her prosthetic leg (with a boot on the end of it) in time with the waving hands.
We fell in love with you then, and have never stopped admiring you, in all your moods.
We had been through some really bad times and you were the inspiration that we needed to buck our ideas up and start pulling our lives together again and showing us that with a little bit of courage life could be good again.
Many people hide behind a smile, you are not alone, and with what life has dealt you, we think you are very brave. We know that eventually you will come through your dark cloud and you will realise that you are loved and admired by everyone who knows you.
Big Hugs,
Rog and Chris, xx
 
I Once Shared My Squirrel Stew With You>

I once shared my Squirrel stew with you.
and that's something i never do.
I didn't know you then.
I didn't judge you then.
I didn't pity you then.
I just liked you.
so I shared my stew with you.
We all liked you then.
as we all like you now.
Enough Said.:)
 
meant to say Sue - if you do get checked out and test positive for nuttiness, you can be sure you'll be in good company !
 
Sue, so sorry you are having a bad time. I really can't thing of anything to say that hasn't been said already, but I didn't want it to look as though I was ignoring you!

As others have said, you are a bit of an inspiration to other solo motorhomers and you help newbies to feel included at meets, thank you.

The grieving process is different for everyone and I think this time of year can be particularly difficult.

Looking forward to getting out and about and meeting up with you in the better weather.
 
daisymini said:
But I feel for the friends that know me on here needed a little explanation of my recent behaviour and lack of contact :)
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I have recently suffered trauma and it changed me completely, I try to keep it to myself and struggle to behave as I did before but as soon as I am on my own I retreat into a shell, I have not been able to communicate with friends or family like I did before and it is difficult to explain, I went to a few meets last year and you wouldn't know I had a problem (apart from drink:lol-053:) but it was hard work and only possible because I had to beat the hurdle, on the way to both meets I could have turned round and gone home, I admire you so much for your frank and honest post, it must have taken a lot of thought and courage to open up like that, not many of us could do it.

I read a few years ago of a lady with a prosthetic leg who stayed overnight with some bikers or something similar, she showed them how to party and drank from the cup of her prosthetic leg, it was a lovely story and lifted me at a bad time but for some reason I have always thought it was you, if it was can you post the story again and if it wasn't has anyone else seen it
 
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My armour is off.....I will be what I will be...( not sure that will be a good thing but it will be me worts an all)
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Sue I think your brave for coming out and stating that you have a health problem and that will no doubt lift a heavy weight from your shoulders, for the start of something better and that has to be a good thing as you say it will be you worst and all!! And as Terry says it feels like an impossible hurdle to get over but I’m sure with time you and Terry will come out the other end much better with help from your friends on here,or should that be family because that is what it sometimes feels like even though I’ve never met anyone!
 
I really do feel for you, but I don't really know how I can help you, except that maybe I can pass on some advice that I have come to live by.

A couple of years ago, I started looking after my father in law. When I made the decision to do this, my biggest concern was the loss of my freedom that would result from being the only person that looked after him.
I didn't realise how much it would effect me, until I got up one morning & I was stood in the kitchen making his breakfast, after cleaning him & the bathroom up.

I was looking out of the window at the rain, when a voice in my head seemed to say, what's the point, is there any reason to try & go on any longer?
What do I have to look forward to?
I can't afford any respite care, I can't go anywhere for more than a few hours, I can't use the van I'm converting, I'm always tired.
But then something I was told years ago by my mum came into my mind, she said that if you want to be happy, then try to look for the beauty that is right there, in front of your eyes, when you look at something, really look. look at a leaf, the way it grows, the colour, the texture, the way it's attached to the branch.
When you remember someone, then remember all the good times you had with them, all the little things that made you happy!

So I do, it's amazing how much beauty you can see in people, animals, birds, insects, grass, trees & flowers etc.,
I took up photography, I try to convey the way an image makes me feel, it's good to have something to take my mind off of the cage I now find myself in.

There's always hope, there's always light at the end of the tunnel.

All the very best to you, Phill
 
time 5 t no doubt just working on the van does help as it take your mind of your problemand when it done just take him out even if it t just to local park and park up make tea sit and enjoy your work have been where you have been and owe a lot to this forum and to sue as have talked to sue and been out with the group on a meet and enjoyed the company and have heard of some of sues exploits and they do make me smile in particular the dambusters song that was performed herein my home town i missed but heard about it and it made me laugh


ps you have some very nice members in scotland no doubt more than willing to listen to you
 
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Not just me then ?

I get good days, I sometime I get great days. But those "dark days", phew! A couple of years ago I bought a lamp from Maplins. SAD, Seasonal Adjustment Disorder. It helps. I'm fully aware that my problems don't even register on the Mental Health scale. And for that, I will always be thankful. I do have memory problems sometimes embarrassing, somethings, not a problem. My motto, if I had one, should be, "tomorrow will be a better day". Unfortunately it' s usually," sh*t happens". I'm cheering myself up in the knowledge that this snow will go eventually. You can take it from me, I'm not planning a skiing holiday any time soon. Derek
 
Like many I have had my problems though things are a lot better now and and I can survive without anti depressants and counselling. How you finally get over it will be your path but counselling does help, and so do antidepressants. I started with my GP whos practice did have in house counselling and have worked on from there. I was also lucky that my employer when I worked had an anonymous counselling service admitting mental health problems in the workplace was a real no no back then. Good luck, you have taken the first step and that is the most important one, just keep going forward looking for the things that make you happy.
 
maxi77 said:
Good luck, you have taken the first step and that is the most important one, just keep going forward looking for the things that make you happy.
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I'm getting a little concerned that I may have made you concerned about me. Please don't. Like a lot of us re born teenagers ( I like that, if I could I'd give myself a "like"), sometimes I get the feeling I'm being left behind. I've got to be honest, things like computers baffle me, even the simplest thing has me asking, how do I do this. Nine times out of ten, I'm given the answer straight away, but i can hear the "Tut" in the background. I'm 70 years young, still working, but only one more year ( honest ), still got my health, well after a bit of help from the NHS.
Let's just say, I can understand what people mean by The Black Dog.
Cheer up and put the kettle on. It might not help, but a least you'll get a cup a tea out of it, Bye now. Got to put the kettle on, Nik's making hints that I should shift my ***. Dadad
 
maxi77 said:
Like many I have had my problems though things are a lot better now and and I can survive without anti depressants and counselling. How you finally get over it will be your path but counselling does help, and so do antidepressants. I started with my GP whos practice did have in house counselling and have worked on from there. I was also lucky that my employer when I worked had an anonymous counselling service admitting mental health problems in the workplace was a real no no back then. Good luck, you have taken the first step and that is the most important one, just keep going forward looking for the things that make you happy.
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I agree with you about counselling and antidepressants, I was lucky to be admitted to a head injury clinic, only once a week but I was meeting other serious head injury survivors and getting help from professionals, I had been refusing antidepressants which my Doctor had offered because I didn't want to go down that route (I confess now that I didn't want to accept that I was depressed), I had sessions at the clinic with a psychologist who explained things to me, modern antidepressants are not like the older ones, less chance of becoming addicted being one of the benefits, he suggested a couple of them and gave me a letter for my GP, I started on 50mg of sertraline, I was told it could be increased if it was felt I needed it but I don't think I do, Maggy says I am happier and take things in my stride the same as I did when I was younger, I still don't like gatherings but I am not taking them for that.
Anyone who is having problems please get professional help because it will be the best thing you can do.
Thanks to Sue for OP, it might help a few others
 
anti depressants work they keep me on stable well i assume stable enough an d have been without them withdrawal is crap and it enough more so when off them keep chugging them down get through the day even if it a bad one just hope for light at end of tunnel
 
I think the number of members admitting they have had issues demonstrates mental health is more prevalent than people think ..It isn't a weakness but an illness just like the flu (not something you can help)

Whilst it is great we are out the "closet" I hope the lurkers that don't feel quite right , seem agitated ,,take the brave step to see their docs and get the support that they need

Channa
 
Thankyou to everybody for your kind and encouraging words, my mood is a little lighter but still not out of the woods. I think the last year has taken its toll And to now find I've lost my independence as I cannot wear my leg as I've done to much and created myself a medical problem that seems difficult to resolve.
I wouldnt mind if it was the other leg (that's useless too) but then at least I would be able to drive!
At the moment it feels like Groundhog Day, I just seem to get up waste a day and go to bed!
Even the simple tasks of day to day living are grinding me down as everything takes twice as long and twice as much effort. I'm sure this will pass I just need to work it out without resorting to the antidepressant route.
On a lighter note ...yes I was that woman with the bikers lol
And hopefully I'll get back to my jolly self soon....
Much love and thanks to everyone for keeping me up.......xxxxxxx
 
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