So from now on I will be turning my solar control panel off whilst travelling.
I wouldn't bother. Probably better to let the alternator do what it can and then switch it off and let the solar finish the job.
Problem as I see it is it's not the solar causing the problems for the alternator as much as the alternator split charge system stopping the solar.
unless you have a special alternator and large cables, the charging system is going to decrease the output voltage/current according to the requirements of the starting battery. This doesn't need 100% charge to do its job so the system is more designed to prevent overcharging the start battery. The rest of the car electrical system is really designed to work on around 13.5V so no point in overstressing all that gear just to fully-charge the battery which doesn't need it anyway.
Plenty of contention about whether an alternator can fully charge a leisure battery except during very long drives. Same goes for using a 'converter" (240Vac to 13.7vDC) to "charge a battery" when on shore power. May keep a full battery full, but takes forever to fully charge a flat battery.
Anyway, back to the subject. While ever a relay-type split charging system is working, the solar output is also going to be connected to both batteries and the car's electrical circuit, so is not going to be able to correctly charge the leisure battery.
Would take a lot of calculations involving source and load impedances and output voltages and currents which are all dynamic in nature to work out exactly what is the best configuration and best timing for switching one source on or off - so it may not be worth doing anything.
It is true that one charging source can interfere with another and this usually shows up by the solar or mains charger indicator lights cycling between the different stages. Again, unlikely to cause any problems, but may be a bit upsetting to the owner.
I've had all three sources charging my batteries at the same time (40A mains charger, 280A alternator and 600W of solar) and seen no signs of instability. Your system might differ.
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to be honest that seemsliken expensive way of joining the batteries a big manual switch is very cheap and at least you have control.
start on engine battery then switch the leisure side on. simple .i find relays always go wrong just when you need them. big cable big switch. perfect.
Yes, but only until you forget and end up with either a flat starter battery or a flat leisure battery. At the very least us the oil pressure switch or ignition circuit to switch a relay on and off as the engine runs. Still not perfect but about the cheapest way to overcome forgetfulness.