35mm2 as a minimum is a bit OTT
The cable requirements will depend on a combination of cable run and current, but if say a 30A B2B on a run of maybe 3 Metres, there is no need to go above 16mm2.
If you look at the manufacturers installation guides for a typical 30A charger they will talk about 10mm2 and 16mm2 typically. Something like a
Victron Orion-Tr Smart 30A you could not even get a larger cable than 16mm2 fitted in it.
Generally speaking, I am a proponent of going big on cables, but got to temper that against what is practical to run, practical to fit and also practical to buy (have you seen the price of cables recently? Say you went for a 70mm2 Copper (you mentioned 60mm2 but you don't get 60mm2 - goes from 50mm2 to 70mm2) and did a run of both +ve and -ve from
battery to
battery, you would be looking at over £30 per metre on the run. That is rather a lot of wonga when you don't need anywhere near that cable size (you might use 70mm2 Cable for a 2500W
inverter pulling over 200A, but not a piddly little 30A or 50A B2B).