Herbenny
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Blimey I'm really shocked... I for one have taken this all very seriously as have my family and like many others have spent days upon days weeks upon weeks
staring at the walls and looking at the news in absolute fear.
I then realized very early on that we are all individuals with own needs and ways to get through these very difficult times. We had to make our own rules up for ourselves and our families as long as we followed the "guidelines" of lockdown. I cast no judgements on people who decided to do what they felt was right for them and their family as long as it remained within the "guidelines" .. we all had/have to get through it any which way we knew how.
My son lives with us, the first six weeks the rules were so unclear about how he would get to see his little boy who stays here at our home two / three times a week ... my son and his ex wife were prepared to move in together as they are very good friends .. however they quickly realized this could put added strain on there relationship and cause emotional and confusing repercussions for our grandson.
So they then decided to keep apart completely this meant no physical, v contact visits at all for six long weeks.
My husband was a key worker and we all felt it was unsafe to allow our little grandson into our home. This was utterly devestating to us all particularly our grandson who has a consistent and close relationship with his daddy. I was on the brink of being a total wreck at not being able to see him even though in retrospect our house was his second home.
After six long and difficult weeks we sought advice and realized the two households would so call merge into one. This was ok for children with separated parents .... was it ideal ? Not really but what else could be done ... above all it was my grandsons emotional wellbeing that was our top priority. Thankfully my husband works away so he had much less interaction with my grandson and if I could of lived in the van I would of done in a heartbeat.
We didn't break rules and remained completely within the guidelines.
I respect people and their views Although my tolerance levels have dropped with the preachy ones ... do what's right for yourselves and your beliefs and let others get on with doing what's right for them.
To the original poster go and enjoy your visit to your parents ... sit in the garden hopefully in the sunshine and catch up and enjoy your stay, bring some laughter and much needed family time
staring at the walls and looking at the news in absolute fear.
I then realized very early on that we are all individuals with own needs and ways to get through these very difficult times. We had to make our own rules up for ourselves and our families as long as we followed the "guidelines" of lockdown. I cast no judgements on people who decided to do what they felt was right for them and their family as long as it remained within the "guidelines" .. we all had/have to get through it any which way we knew how.
My son lives with us, the first six weeks the rules were so unclear about how he would get to see his little boy who stays here at our home two / three times a week ... my son and his ex wife were prepared to move in together as they are very good friends .. however they quickly realized this could put added strain on there relationship and cause emotional and confusing repercussions for our grandson.
So they then decided to keep apart completely this meant no physical, v contact visits at all for six long weeks.
My husband was a key worker and we all felt it was unsafe to allow our little grandson into our home. This was utterly devestating to us all particularly our grandson who has a consistent and close relationship with his daddy. I was on the brink of being a total wreck at not being able to see him even though in retrospect our house was his second home.
After six long and difficult weeks we sought advice and realized the two households would so call merge into one. This was ok for children with separated parents .... was it ideal ? Not really but what else could be done ... above all it was my grandsons emotional wellbeing that was our top priority. Thankfully my husband works away so he had much less interaction with my grandson and if I could of lived in the van I would of done in a heartbeat.
We didn't break rules and remained completely within the guidelines.
I respect people and their views Although my tolerance levels have dropped with the preachy ones ... do what's right for yourselves and your beliefs and let others get on with doing what's right for them.
To the original poster go and enjoy your visit to your parents ... sit in the garden hopefully in the sunshine and catch up and enjoy your stay, bring some laughter and much needed family time
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... five minutes later he was bossing me about again 
