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Ian so sorry to hear your news, sounds like she was a lovely lady.
The light of my life went out last night rip sheila
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My sincere condolences.
In late 2016, I lost my wife of 40 years after 3 weeks in hospital, for most of which she was expected to recover. A few months earlier, unaware of her illness, we had booked ferries for spring 2017 for what was to be our longest trip to date: 2 months touring France. I decided that I should go ahead with the trip anyway, pretty much following our outline plan, visited a few family and friends, some places with happy memories and many new places. I found it slightly challenging, particularly when close-quarters manoeuvring, but also comforting in some ways and would have regretted not going ahead with it - but different people respond differently. Remember the good times, but try also to create some new memories.
In late 2016, I lost my wife of 40 years after 3 weeks in hospital, for most of which she was expected to recover. A few months earlier, unaware of her illness, we had booked ferries for spring 2017 for what was to be our longest trip to date: 2 months touring France. I decided that I should go ahead with the trip anyway, pretty much following our outline plan, visited a few family and friends, some places with happy memories and many new places. I found it slightly challenging, particularly when close-quarters manoeuvring, but also comforting in some ways and would have regretted not going ahead with it - but different people respond differently. Remember the good times, but try also to create some new memories.
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So sorry to read this, I echo the thoughts of those posted above. Take your time to decide what you want to do, there are no rules.
The best thing I did after losing my husband was to buy a small caravan so the kids, dogs & I could still get away. I had sold the family van to my brother straight after the funeral as the towcar was hubby's work car and it had to go back.
The best thing I did after losing my husband was to buy a small caravan so the kids, dogs & I could still get away. I had sold the family van to my brother straight after the funeral as the towcar was hubby's work car and it had to go back.
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I can't even begin to think what you're going through let alone advise on what to do with the camper.
RIP Sheila
Regards,
Del
RIP Sheila
Regards,
Del
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The light of my life went out last night rip Sheila
Channa many thanks for your advise regarding speaking to Sheila I am finding myself saying Goodnight sweet heart.
I got a feeling that she maybe listening, I must remember to talk to her when those daft moments arrive .
Like this morning .
I decided to have a shave as it had been 2 days since I stood near the razer I did the hot water thing with the shaving brush fine ,lathered the soap on the brush lifted the brush to start the process only to realize I was lathering my fore head instead of my chin. Doh!!!!!
I hoped to get a bit more concentration so took myself of to the garage for some R and R .I am working on an English Longbow at the moment so was a little worried at first but soon settled in the shaping the back of the bow its made from mountain ash so nice to work on.
Had a few sips of coffee a choc biscuit or to shared with molly my border collie .
Had a good couple of hours and nothing went wrong so I think ive found my release.
SHEILA WILL BE WITH US ALL NOW ADDED AVATAR. Ireland 2016
brgds.ian
Channa many thanks for your advise regarding speaking to Sheila I am finding myself saying Goodnight sweet heart.
I got a feeling that she maybe listening, I must remember to talk to her when those daft moments arrive .
Like this morning .
I decided to have a shave as it had been 2 days since I stood near the razer I did the hot water thing with the shaving brush fine ,lathered the soap on the brush lifted the brush to start the process only to realize I was lathering my fore head instead of my chin. Doh!!!!!
I hoped to get a bit more concentration so took myself of to the garage for some R and R .I am working on an English Longbow at the moment so was a little worried at first but soon settled in the shaping the back of the bow its made from mountain ash so nice to work on.
Had a few sips of coffee a choc biscuit or to shared with molly my border collie .
Had a good couple of hours and nothing went wrong so I think ive found my release.
SHEILA WILL BE WITH US ALL NOW ADDED AVATAR. Ireland 2016
brgds.ian
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jeanette
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I hope you don’t mind me saying but I’ve been in that situation where I’d lost my first husband and as channa says have a little chat with Sheila and later you might go through other emotions which is the natural grieving process so if and when it happens don’t feel bad,and do what makes you feel is right for you but bear in mind there is no right or wrong thing to do!..and no matter what you do about going out and about in the motorhome if that’s what you want Sheila will always be with you no matter what!
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The light of my life went out last night rip Sheila
By tomorrow night i will have taken the death certificate to register Sheila.
Then appointment with undertakers at 3 pm to sort out Sheilas wishes regarding service at the church where she was christened married and will be berried .
Sheila wishes to be cremated then interred in the family burial plot along side her mum and dad ,with her grand parents next door .
Apparently they have saved a place for me as well so that will be us together again
Hopefully not to soon..
thank you every one for your very kind words and encouragement, if i go back to work i will only have a few months to work before i retire.
brgds .Ian :wave::wave::wave:
By tomorrow night i will have taken the death certificate to register Sheila.
Then appointment with undertakers at 3 pm to sort out Sheilas wishes regarding service at the church where she was christened married and will be berried .
Sheila wishes to be cremated then interred in the family burial plot along side her mum and dad ,with her grand parents next door .
Apparently they have saved a place for me as well so that will be us together again
Hopefully not to soon..
thank you every one for your very kind words and encouragement, if i go back to work i will only have a few months to work before i retire.
brgds .Ian :wave::wave::wave:
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Heart wrenching Ian !
Ill only say 1 thing,
Just remember the good times and be thankful you both shared those time together.
I go with just me and my 2 dogs, and Im sure Sheila would want the same for you.
Good luck
Ill only say 1 thing,
Just remember the good times and be thankful you both shared those time together.
I go with just me and my 2 dogs, and Im sure Sheila would want the same for you.
Good luck
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The light of my life went out last night rip Sheila
Spent all yesterday at coroners office and undertakers .sorted things out Sheila will be cremated 25.6.19 @ 2..15.
I collect her ashes bring them home for a while before she is interned with her mum and dad.
Her brother Peter lives in ti-land so to far for him to come We have had a good chat about his little sister and the scrapes they used to get in Growing up in Southwell Nottinghamshire in the 1960s ive known the family from Sheila being 7 years old.
Peter and I are the same age and went to the same school for a couple of years.
Ive got Betsy the camper running drove it back and forwards a few times brakes are not sticking so maybe next week I WILL MOT HER.
once again many thanks to all my friends on the big green W.
grgds. Ian.
ps I find myself in tears quite often ive never cried so much any thing can set me off. I got fish and chips for one last night nearly got .
went to the woods with the dogs shared the fish and chips with them then we went for a little walk along one of the tracks to the top of the hill.
only for it to start to rain so that time I could say it was rain streaming down my face and not tears ,but as I write this I cannot blame the rain this time.
I presume this is what they call grieving . sorry cannot see to wet.
Spent all yesterday at coroners office and undertakers .sorted things out Sheila will be cremated 25.6.19 @ 2..15.
I collect her ashes bring them home for a while before she is interned with her mum and dad.
Her brother Peter lives in ti-land so to far for him to come We have had a good chat about his little sister and the scrapes they used to get in Growing up in Southwell Nottinghamshire in the 1960s ive known the family from Sheila being 7 years old.
Peter and I are the same age and went to the same school for a couple of years.
Ive got Betsy the camper running drove it back and forwards a few times brakes are not sticking so maybe next week I WILL MOT HER.
once again many thanks to all my friends on the big green W.
grgds. Ian.
ps I find myself in tears quite often ive never cried so much any thing can set me off. I got fish and chips for one last night nearly got .
went to the woods with the dogs shared the fish and chips with them then we went for a little walk along one of the tracks to the top of the hill.
only for it to start to rain so that time I could say it was rain streaming down my face and not tears ,but as I write this I cannot blame the rain this time.
I presume this is what they call grieving . sorry cannot see to wet.