The light of my life went out last night rip sheila

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As the title says Sheila passed away 8.20 last night after a long illness at home with me and the dogs.
I have had to face this day arriving for a very very long time ,she collapsed in January recovered but we were told she hadnt many days left .
She came home and started to recover only for her hip to fracture which put her back in hospital and much weaker .
Bed sore finally sean her off after it turned to sepsis back in hospital for 5 days came home last Friday at 6 pm .
Settled in over the weekend but we new time was short so we discussed her wishes regarding funeral.
Said we would talk more in the morning Sheila went to sleep I went to bed 11pm.
5am I woke to came down stairs Sheila was struggling to breath so put oxygen mask on her settled her down .
I went back to bed woke at 08.30 came down stairs Sheila was still asleep but still breathing hard.
I got the family round to say goodbye With her .yorkshire terrier by her side she slipper away.
Dont be sad we had a great life together for 45 years
We holidayed in tin tent for 5 years before buying our first campervan Betsy Bus LDV converted mini bus,
wild camped every where we went Ireland , Scotland Wales and most parts of the south coast of Britain for the next 5 years then purchased the wildax citroen based conversion which Sheila loved , it had a shower and a proper loo......and heating.
which we have had 4 years now.
Sheila not been well enough this year to travel so Betsy has been parked up on our back garden.
I am just wondering about putting her back on the road again, needs MOT but its all ready been prept.
Not sure how I feel about venturing out on my own with just the 2 dogs for company.
Will it make me sad and not want to carry on alone?? or is it just what I need to heal me !!!!
I am surrounded by Sheilas things every where I look ,Including the hospital bed in the sitting room ,,,,,till Red Cross can fetch it on 1st July.
Sorry about the ramble but I feel a little better already.
bgrgds.Ian
 
It's hard to know what to say with such a sad story but my sincere condolences,at least your family was with her at the end to say their goodbyes.It's so hard to lose a loved one and I know just how you are feeling...........all the best and stay strong.
 
Sad news and my heart goes out to you. My partner died from lung cancer in November 2014. We had been together for 22 years and I was distraught. I went into virtual hibernation for about six months but was well supported by family and great neighbours. Finally bit the bullet and got me and the dog off for a weekend in the camper. It was hard but I carried on and though I still miss her dreadfully we now get away fairly regularly. Poppy is a yellow lab and is a great companion. I now class myself as alone but not lonely and I’m sure you’ll make it as well. Don’t be scared of grieving, take the days as they come. Some will be better than others and I really wish you all the best in this difficult time.
 
Sorry to hear this sad news. Lost my dad 4 years ago and my mum this year. They had been married 60 years. The last 4 years was difficult as mum was housebound but we got her through it. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
 
My sincere condolences to you, your family and friends I know we’ve never met it sounds as if you had a very happy and full filling life, my thoughts and prayers are with you
 
As has been said sincere wishes to you and your family.Sad to hear the news but your wife is peaceful now and is not suffering.Allow yourself time to come to terms with this.I lost my father 7 years now .My son died only being 43 early last year and my mother passed away last July although brother and sister chose to not tell me and I only found out by a solicitor letter 3 months later.So I feel for you.Your wife would want you to move on and remember the good times you had together,

Atb Michael
 
So sorry to hear your news, but she passed away at home and with her favourite people and dog friends, just take it a day at a time. She will always be with you, you carry her in your heart.
 
Your wife slipped away peacefully with her "best friends" around her. This is as much as any of us can hope for.

You have loved and been loved, cling to that and press on. It's all you can do.

Now's. not the time I know, but at some point, do try to get out in the van with your dog he'll be good company. Dogs are great listeners. Go to the places you have loved. The more you've loved them, perhaps the more they'll hurt, but also bring back happy memories in equal measure.

So, there are my pearls of wisdom for what they're worth.

Condolences.
 
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My sincere condolences.

Emotions at the moment will feel like a bomb that's exploded in your mind everything seems in disarray.

The positive thing to do is see it as a new chapter with the hound get out and about and always have a little chat with Sheila those daft moments sometimes.

I can only wish you all the best

Channa
 
Condolences for your loss, only time can mend. Everyone is different but I have always needed things to occupy me at times like that. I would say get the van on the road and get out in it with the dog, it’s what I would do anyway.
 
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Condolences for your loss, only time can mend. Everyone is different but I have always needed things to occupy me at times like that. I would say get the van on the road and get out in it with the dog, it’s what I would do anyway.
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Condolences for your loss. When my previous wife died in 2005 I was in a right old state. I certainly needed something to do just to keep me occupied. Perhaps you should take MH down and get it MOT'd after first of all giving it a good clean ready for the road. Time does heal and you will have lots of happy memories.
 
So sorry for your loss! Must be like losing a part of yourself....but she will still be with you in your heart and all those memories will stay. Hope you find your way through this and find comfort in knowing she had a peaceful end with those she lived round her.
 
So sorry to hear your news. Yoe have been together a long time , i bet Sheila would tell you to get out in the van , she wouldn't want it or you to sit about. It's good that you felt able to share your news with us and that you feel a bit better. All the best .x
 
So very sorry to hear about Sheila. One thing for sure she will always be with you in heart and mind.

Like everyone else says, if you can find the energy to get organised and away in the van with your dog at some point that would be a very good thing to do.

Don't worry about sorting other 'stuff' out, there is plenty of time for that and you need to be good and ready to face it. Maybe family and friends will be able to help you practically in sorting Sheila's personal possessions out when you're ready?

Take it a day at a time and be kind to yourself. We're all in here listening if you need to get your feelings off your chest.

The most difficult time can be when the dust has settled, funeral has happened, and everyone thinks your life has got back to some sort of 'normal' - plus they don't know what to say to you! - so they think you'll be OK, but in fact you are making the massive adjustment to a new 'normal'.

You will definitely go on and create more happy memories for yourself with Sheila keeping an eye on you to make sure you're safe! ;) xx
 
So sorry for your loss. Everyone has said what I would like to say but remember, you are in a new phase in your life - there are no rules about what you should do or feel. Just take care of yourself, go with your own flow and do things when you feel ready. I read something once, “grief fills an empty vessel” which I interpreted as keeping busy and doing things, and having lost a partner myself I found this to be true for me. Best wishes x
 
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Very sad to hear of your loss. Can’t really add to what others have said, but despite your sadness now I’m sure that she would have wanted you to make the most of your future.
 
Just to echo the sentiments already expressed, my heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your family. Remember this forum if you feel the need to rant, rave or cry, there are many good people on here who will help one way or another.
 
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