How many loners on here?

[Channa]

hmm Bushtrekker you want to be thankful you have a wife and family and have funtions to go to and yes I do understand it is nice to get away but even nicer to be part of a family and have family who enjoy your company.
I was parked up the other day and an elderly bloke came up to our van saying how much he liked the look of it. He then went on to tell me that he had just orderd a brand new van for him and his wife as they planned to travel Europe. His wife took ill the day after and visited the docs who immedietly sent her to hospital and was told she only had 3 days left to live. and yes 3 days later she died. This happened in the last 2 weeks. Sad you may think but he is now left all alone he has no children, brothers or sisters if fact he has no relatives to turn to or care for him belive me I really felt for him!

I think there is a saying along the lines of ....there by the grace of god go I..

I too have met.people desperately lonely to the extent they can't see it.
Last night I found myself I. The biggest queue possible, an old man behind me..

Yes we spoke trivia no doubt, but making the attempt to chat and perhaps learn something seemed a better idea than focussing on the grout between tiles on the floor
Channa

 

[whitevanwoman]

One woman and her dog here, I suddenly realised the other day that I usually only feel totally relaxed when I'm alone, I can be sociable, friendly and out-going when in company, but I am happiest (I think) when it's just me and the dog, out for the day on the fells or beach, or off having adventures in the Tranny, with no watch and no mobile reception.

I regularly accidentally on purpose leave my phone in the van overnight, or in a bag or pocket, sometimes for a couple of days at a time - living where I do I can get away with it by blaming poor reception I find that every now and again I have to have a couple of days out from the human race, to kind of recharge my mental and emotional batteries, particularly if I've been busy or got alot going on.

I'm also known as Little Miss Late - not wearing a watch means that I'm always late. Even if I get up with plenty of time, I still end up being late. My best so far (and only a couple of weeks ago) was being 24 hours late :lol-053: luckily I have a good friend who knows what I'm like for faffing, and that I tend to change my mind (several times) at the last minute, or I've left packing etc till the last minute, and so he now gives me early morning phone calls or adds an hour or 2 to our meeting time. He nearly passed out when I was 5 mins early to meet him in the Scalby Manor in Scarborough for a pub meal, but it was only cos I was starving and I thought I was late so I rushed to get showered and changed :lol-049:

I like to think of it as being a free spirit rather than a loner. And with the dog I'm never alone anyway. I swear he understands every word, and he never argues back

 

[Bushtrekker]

Everyone needs space.

hmm Bushtrekker you want to be thankful you have a wife and family and have funtions to go to and yes I do understand it is nice to get away but even nicer to be part of a family and have family who enjoy your company.

My wife is partially sighted and uses talking books, as she finds it difficult to read, although she can get around and do most things. When I was at work we saw each other for about 5 minutes in the morning when I took her tea up and about an hour and a half in the evening, before she went off to listen to her books and I came online.

We were both unsure how we would get on in the confined space of a camper, as it would mean invading each others space, but amazingly we sort of got on when we went to Cornwall. On the next trip our daughter has decided to come down and meet us after the folk festival, which is fine, but I'm now a month into retirement and it's hard work.

When we get back I'm going to put my foot down and disappear by myself for a few days, so I don't have to constantly think about other people's needs and do what they want to do. If this sounds selfish it isn't, as I encourage my wife when she wants to go out with friend, or go away with them. I'm sure anyone on here who is, or has been, in a long term relationship would agree with me that no matter how much you love your partner you still need your own space.

 

[kimbowbill]

Sure you do, but you do sound like you are trying to justify it, she might be glad to see back ov you, lol, i think time apart can enhance relationships,

 

[arumba]

yea I do understand we all need our own space and its good to have it at times I often say 'I am my own best friend' as I enjoy my own company at times but I do enjoy been with the family and enjoy watching the little one's learning to walk, talk and get into mischief they grow up so fast these days that if you blink you may have missed that special moment in their lives lol I am blessed to have such a wonderful family and a big one too 2 daughters and a son, 5 granddaughters, 8 brothers and sisters, 27 nieces and nephews, and 27 great nephews and neices and still growing lol so you can imagian the events I have to attend. Sometimes I cannot manage them all but I do try to attend most of them. In one year I had some event going on every month sometimes 2 events and my it can be expensive but hey if they are kind enough to want me to share their special moment I just say PARTY ON lol :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance: :dance:

 

[scenictraveller]

But the great thing about getting old is you think you got loads of friends but you not got a clue who they are !!!!!!! lol

thought this was about being alone not old

 

[Jelloman]

Steinbeck's camper

Strangely enough these posts remind me of one of my favourite books: 'Travels with Charley', published around 1962, it is a non-fiction work by John Steinbeck.
"In the fall of 1960, John Steinbeck drove 10,000 miles across the United States in a pick-up truck, with just his French poodle Charley for company. It was an eccentric and romantic idea, but Steinbeck wanted to be re-acquainted with the nation he had portrayed so vividly in his great novels of the 1930s, and when 'the urge to be someplace else' was on him, he knew better than to resist. Charley was there through it all and he turned out to be the ideal travel buddy. Intelligent, diplomatic and worldly-wise, he could size up strangers in an instant and lighten the blackest of moods."
It's a good read, at times critical, funny but always keenly observed.