Channa
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I'm quoting myself to remind myself to wait and see next time. <br />
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When I read online forums I often feel it's a shame that debaters don't seem to understand that everyone's experience and views are different - completely different in many cases - that viewpoints are often not a matter of absolute rights and wrongs. It makes things less painful and destructive to stop and ask oneself, before posting:<br />
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<li data-xf-list-type="ul">have I tried to understand where the other person is coming from, what they're trying to communicate, why they might think as they do?</li>
<li data-xf-list-type="ul">am I nit-picking or being antagonistic to try and win an argument rather than engage in a discussion?</li>
<li data-xf-list-type="ul">is there a constructive and exploratory way of phrasing what I want to say so we can all learn something without hurting each other?</li>
<li data-xf-list-type="ul">what can I learn from the the people willing to discuss this topic... about how other people live, about their experiences, which may be very different from mine?</li>
</ul>Of course, if triumph is what you're after, if it makes you feel better, you can dismiss my views right now!
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</blockquote>bollooocs some would rather have a scrap.....go.go.go<br />
My dads bigger than your dad....egos anyway<br />
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Sorry what were you sharing?<br />
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Channa</div>
